Dear Dani,
I want to tell you that, “I’m sorry.” I am sorry for letting your medical family get me down that I lose my focus. You are my strength and my inspiration. As they back us further against a wall, you show us the way.
You no longer struggle at every breath, in fact, the last time we used oxygen to help you was back in June. You no longer have a weak cough. We are impressed how strong your cough is getting. When we are snuggling you and you cough, we can now feel your breathe on our face. You have made enormous gains with your salvia. We no longer have to worry about you choking. You no longer have your aspiration episodes. You would scare us with these. But since we switched you to real food instead of formula based milk, this has helped you so much. It pains me that your medical family does not agree with this. When we first started putting you on your tummy, we would have to switch out your burp rag 3 or more times a day because of your drooling. Now, I can say, it only needs to be switched out weekly for washings. No more puddles of drooling!
You have gained weight! After 8 months of constant weight loss, you gained 2 pounds! Again, criticism from your medical family was voiced. You also grew ½ inch. At this rate, you will be our tallest child. Kaylee and Brianna were always in the 30-50 percentile for their height. Yet, you hold strong in the 70 – 75th percentile! We know this new diet is already doing wonders for you and we will continue to fight them on this.
It seems that you have stumped your medical family with your wonders. Instead of taking you on as a challenge, they seem to find you inferior to their intelligence. They offer their “institutions” for you, but you are a part of our family and that is where you are going to stay. The offer their Hospice program, because by their account you should be dead. But you are still ALIVE and THRIVING. Sometimes, it feels like they want you to die that way you can stop insulting their intelligence and defying their logic.
From the second you were born, you have always done everything on “Dani Time”. It seems that you skipped the book about “conventional” ways to take care of a special needs child. Instead, you have written your own book. It would have been nice to get a user manual for you, but we have done the best that we can. You have proven time and time again, that you are unique and challenging. I cannot understand why the conventional ways were always forced on you when clearly they were not working. Now, don’t get me wrong we have met some pretty special people that tried their best to help you. You insist on being the teacher at your young age instead of the pupil. I think your medical family has a lot to learn from you if only they could open their minds to it.
Dani, you helped me become a better person. We take so much for granted in life. You have shown us to slow down life and appreciate the small stuff. We treasure your smiles, your giggles and your triumphs because we don’t see them as often as we want to. Every so often, we get a 30 second glimpse of the “old you” and that breaks my heart. Not because you do it, but because you medical family is so willing to give up on you when clearly you are still in there. We are trying little one, we are trying to get you out of you prison called your body.
We have many more changes coming for you in the months to come. You are the hardest worker; because you take everything on that we throw at you without complaint. Your endurance is amazing. I vow that we will do everything we can to get you off those seizure medications that are holding you back. Your medical family is hell bent on tackling your vitamins, but NOT ONE has said you are overdosing on your 6 seizure medications. NOT ONE. A few of your seizure medications are NOT recommended for children under two and yet you have been on them for quite some time. But it is bad that we want to give you something all natural. I probably can predict that one day we will have Social Services knocking on our door for neglect because we want more for you. We have never been at ease with the drug induced zombie you have become. But what do we know, we are only parents, we are supposed to do what your medical family says regardless of the consequences. I say, “Bring it on” because will we continue to fight for your rights. You should not have to be overdosed on seizure medications just to please your medical family. They do not see you 24 hours a day, they do not see what they are doing to you, and they do not see that they are holding you back.
Continue to fight girly, continue to thrive, and continue to defy your medical family’s logic. We love you!
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